How To Groom A Cat
01.07.21 July 01, 2021 Owning a Cat

How To Groom A Cat

There are many breeds of cat; some with short hair and some with long hair. Whilst cats are very good at grooming and keeping themselves clean, some may need extra help to keep their coats knot-free and shiny. Cats with medium to long hair will definitely benefit from a grooming regime and it will be important to get them used to brushing from a young age. Even short haired cats can benefit from brushing as it helps to get rid of any loose hair and it’s also brilliant bonding time for you and them. In this article we’ll give you some guidance on grooming cats, from everyday brushing to how to groom a cat with long hair, as well as what tools you may need. Do I Need To Groom My Cat? As we mentioned before, cats are generally very good at cleaning themselves and are one of the cleanest pets that you could share your home with. However, grooming can still be beneficial for your feline. Not only will longer haired breeds need extra help to keep their coats knot-free, but grooming is a lovely way for you to spend time with your pets, strengthening the bond you have between you. We’d suggest a light groom at least once a week; more often if your cat has a thick or long coat. Grooming has many benefits for your cat including: Massage - Grooming offers a gentle massage to your cat, that will stimulate the muscles. Glossy Coat - Brushing will help to distribute the natural oils in the hair, through to the tips promoting a smooth and glossy coat. Health Check - Grooming allows you to give your cat a quick once-over allowing you to check for any mites as well as cuts, lumps and bumps. Therapy - Grooming can be therapeutic, not just for your cat, but for you too. Done in the correct way, it should offer calm and relaxation. It also allows you to spend valuable time with your feline, further enhancing the strong bond between you. Brushing Your Cat: A Step-By-Step Guide Brushing your cat is really quite simple once you get the hang of it. It’s best to choose a time when your cat is at their most relaxed and happy to have some human interaction. Start by letting them sniff the brush or comb, and then start on the head or back of the neck where they are most likely to enjoy the massage! Brush in the direction of the fur with small, gentle strokes. Brush all around the head and face including under the chin and their cheeks. You can then move on to other areas, moving between the shoulder blades and down their back. Be careful of sensitive areas. Many cats do not like their tummies being rubbed or touched, so be particularly careful in this area. Grooming sessions should be as long or as short as your cat is comfortable with. If your cat shows signs of discomfort or unease, then stop the grooming session. Grooming is best done in short, regular bursts to ensure your kitty is happy and doesn’t get fed up. The last thing you want is to put them off completely. As they get used to the sessions you can gradually increase the duration. How To Groom A Cat With Long Hair If you’re wondering how to groom a cat with long hair, the key is little and often. Longhaired breeds, such as Ragdolls, Persians and Maine Coons, have dense coats that can quickly develop knots and matts if left unattended, so aim for a short brushing session every day or two rather than one long weekly groom. Work in sections, starting with a wide-toothed comb to gently loosen any tangles from root to tip. Never tug at a knot; hold the fur at the base, close to the skin, and tease the tangle apart slowly so you don’t pull. Once the coat is tangle-free, follow up with a slicker or soft brush to remove loose hair and smooth the topcoat. Pay special attention to the areas where matts form most easily – behind the ears, under the legs, around the collar and the trousers at the back. Regular grooming of a long coat doesn’t just keep your cat looking beautiful; it also reduces the amount of hair they swallow when washing themselves, which helps to prevent hairballs. If you find a matt that’s too tight to comb out, don’t be tempted to cut it out with scissors – it’s very easy to nick the skin. Instead, ask your vet or a professional groomer for help. How To Groom A Kitten? If you can, you should start grooming when you first get your kitten. Kittens who have grown up being groomed from a young age, tend to like being brushed all over. Start with a really soft bristled brush and groom in very short bursts. Allow your kitten to smell the brush first and hopefully they will brush up against it, transferring their scent on to the bristles. They’ll soon get used to the brush and the sensation that being brushed gives. If your kitten moves away from the brush, pause the grooming session. You can try again in a couple of minutes if they settle but try not to force anything. Grooming should be a positive experience for everyone. Just persevere and your kitten will soon enjoy being brushed. Gradually extend the grooming sessions over time and introduce any extra tools that might be needed to keep your cat’s fur in top condition. Short haired breeds may only need one brush, but if you have a longhaired breed, such as a Ragdoll or Persian for instance, you may need a couple of different combs and brushes to keep their dense coats knot free. Should I Bathe My Cat? Cats are famous for their disdain of water, so why would we want to subject them to a bath? They are pretty clean by nature and, with a little help from brushing, generally don’t need to be bathed. However, there are instances where bathing may be required. Some cats aren’t able to keep themselves clean for health or mobility reasons and some may get themselves in a mess, perhaps covered in a substance that needs to be washed off. Consider if you really need to bathe your cat and only do it if it’s completely necessary. Most cats are completely fine with their own grooming routine topped up with a regular brush and comb from you. How To Bathe a Cat? If you do need to bathe your cat, make sure you plan ahead. The vast majority of cats will hate water so it will be important to keep them as comfortable and relaxed as possible. We’d suggest bathing in the sink or basin. Pop a spare towel or something non-slip on the floor of the sink to help keep them stabilised and partially fill the sink. The water shouldn’t be too deep and should come no higher than their tummies. Start by wetting your cat with warm water. Do it gently and pour from a cup. Lather your cat with shampoo. We’d suggest just sticking to the localised area that needs cleaning and only wash your cat all over if it’s completely necessary. Once lathered and cleaned, gently rinse them ensuring all shampoo is rinsed thoroughly. Once your cat is fully rinsed, gently dry them with a soft pet towel. You could try drying with a hairdryer on a very low setting, but most cats won’t like the sound, so it’s best to do what you think is best for your particular cat. Bath time can be particularly stressful for cats, so don’t put them through anything that isn’t completely necessary. Do your best to keep them calm and keep some treats to hand to reward them for their good behaviour. What Are Common Cat Grooming Mistakes? Even with the best intentions, it’s easy to slip into habits that make grooming harder for you and less pleasant for your cat. Here are the most common cat grooming mistakes to avoid: Brushing against the direction of the fur - Always brush the way the coat naturally lies. Going against the grain can pull the fur and irritate the skin, quickly turning your cat off grooming altogether. Grooming for too long - Long sessions can overwhelm your cat. Short, regular bursts are far more effective, and always end on a positive note before your cat becomes restless. Using the wrong tools - Human brushes or dog brushes aren’t designed for feline coats. Choose brushes and combs made specifically for cats and matched to their coat type. Cutting out matts with scissors - Cat skin is thin and delicate, and it’s all too easy to catch it when snipping at a knot. Tight matts should be teased out gently or dealt with by a vet or professional groomer. Bathing too often - Frequent baths strip the natural oils from your cat’s coat and cause unnecessary stress. Only bathe when it’s genuinely needed, and always use a pet-safe feline shampoo. Ignoring sensitive areas or forcing them - Skipping health checks around the ears, eyes and claws means problems can go unnoticed, but forcing a cat to have their tummy brushed when they hate it will damage their trust. Work with your cat’s comfort levels and build up slowly. Cat Grooming Brushes & Tools Whatever grooming regime you choose for your cat, having the correct tool to hand will be important. Make sure you have good quality cat brushes and combs that are designed specifically for felines and their specific coat type. Catit Longhair Grooming Kit - This kit contains every tool you need to take care of a longhaired cat’s coat, from teasing out knots and tangles to fluffing and smoothing the fur – ideal for cats with medium to long coats. Ancol Moulting Cat Comb - This is a brilliant grooming tool for any medium coated cat that is shedding. The variation in teeth length will help to remove loose hair from both the undercoat and the topcoat. Animology Feline Great Shampoo - If you need to bathe your cat, choose a pet safe shampoo designed specifically for felines such as this Animology shampoo. Mild and gentle, it will clean your pets’ fur without stripping it of the natural oils. Suitable for cats from 12 weeks old. You can browse the full range of feline grooming tools in our cat grooming collection.

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There are many breeds of cat; some with short hair and some with long hair. Whilst cats are very good at grooming and keeping themselves clean, some may need extra help to keep their coats knot-free and shiny. Cats with medium to long hair will definitely benefit from a grooming regime and it will be important to get them used to brushing from a young age. Even short haired cats can benefit from brushing as it helps to get rid of any loose hair and it’s also brilliant bonding time for you and them. In this article we’ll give you some guidance on grooming cats, from everyday brushing to how to groom a cat with long hair, as well as what tools you may need.

Do I Need To Groom My Cat?

British Shorthaired cat having their hair brushed

As we mentioned before, cats are generally very good at cleaning themselves and are one of the cleanest pets that you could share your home with. However, grooming can still be beneficial for your feline. Not only will longer haired breeds need extra help to keep their coats knot-free, but grooming is a lovely way for you to spend time with your pets, strengthening the bond you have between you. We’d suggest a light groom at least once a week; more often if your cat has a thick or long coat.

Grooming has many benefits for your cat including:

  • Massage - Grooming offers a gentle massage to your cat, that will stimulate the muscles.
  • Glossy Coat - Brushing will help to distribute the natural oils in the hair, through to the tips promoting a smooth and glossy coat.
  • Health Check - Grooming allows you to give your cat a quick once-over allowing you to check for any mites as well as cuts, lumps and bumps.
  • Therapy - Grooming can be therapeutic, not just for your cat, but for you too. Done in the correct way, it should offer calm and relaxation. It also allows you to spend valuable time with your feline, further enhancing the strong bond between you.

Brushing Your Cat: A Step-By-Step Guide

Brushing your cat is really quite simple once you get the hang of it. It’s best to choose a time when your cat is at their most relaxed and happy to have some human interaction.

Start by letting them sniff the brush or comb, and then start on the head or back of the neck where they are most likely to enjoy the massage! Brush in the direction of the fur with small, gentle strokes. Brush all around the head and face including under the chin and their cheeks. You can then move on to other areas, moving between the shoulder blades and down their back.

Be careful of sensitive areas. Many cats do not like their tummies being rubbed or touched, so be particularly careful in this area.

Grooming sessions should be as long or as short as your cat is comfortable with. If your cat shows signs of discomfort or unease, then stop the grooming session. Grooming is best done in short, regular bursts to ensure your kitty is happy and doesn’t get fed up. The last thing you want is to put them off completely. As they get used to the sessions you can gradually increase the duration.

How To Groom A Cat With Long Hair

If you’re wondering how to groom a cat with long hair, the key is little and often. Longhaired breeds, such as Ragdolls, Persians and Maine Coons, have dense coats that can quickly develop knots and matts if left unattended, so aim for a short brushing session every day or two rather than one long weekly groom.

Work in sections, starting with a wide-toothed comb to gently loosen any tangles from root to tip. Never tug at a knot; hold the fur at the base, close to the skin, and tease the tangle apart slowly so you don’t pull. Once the coat is tangle-free, follow up with a slicker or soft brush to remove loose hair and smooth the topcoat. Pay special attention to the areas where matts form most easily – behind the ears, under the legs, around the collar and the trousers at the back.

Regular grooming of a long coat doesn’t just keep your cat looking beautiful; it also reduces the amount of hair they swallow when washing themselves, which helps to prevent hairballs. If you find a matt that’s too tight to comb out, don’t be tempted to cut it out with scissors – it’s very easy to nick the skin. Instead, ask your vet or a professional groomer for help.

How To Groom A Kitten?

If you can, you should start grooming when you first get your kitten. Kittens who have grown up being groomed from a young age, tend to like being brushed all over.

Start with a really soft bristled brush and groom in very short bursts. Allow your kitten to smell the brush first and hopefully they will brush up against it, transferring their scent on to the bristles. They’ll soon get used to the brush and the sensation that being brushed gives.

If your kitten moves away from the brush, pause the grooming session. You can try again in a couple of minutes if they settle but try not to force anything. Grooming should be a positive experience for everyone. Just persevere and your kitten will soon enjoy being brushed.

Gradually extend the grooming sessions over time and introduce any extra tools that might be needed to keep your cat’s fur in top condition. Short haired breeds may only need one brush, but if you have a longhaired breed, such as a Ragdoll or Persian for instance, you may need a couple of different combs and brushes to keep their dense coats knot free.

Should I Bathe My Cat?

Cats are famous for their disdain of water, so why would we want to subject them to a bath? They are pretty clean by nature and, with a little help from brushing, generally don’t need to be bathed.

However, there are instances where bathing may be required. Some cats aren’t able to keep themselves clean for health or mobility reasons and some may get themselves in a mess, perhaps covered in a substance that needs to be washed off.

Consider if you really need to bathe your cat and only do it if it’s completely necessary. Most cats are completely fine with their own grooming routine topped up with a regular brush and comb from you.

How To Bathe a Cat?

Cat grooming themselves

If you do need to bathe your cat, make sure you plan ahead. The vast majority of cats will hate water so it will be important to keep them as comfortable and relaxed as possible.

We’d suggest bathing in the sink or basin. Pop a spare towel or something non-slip on the floor of the sink to help keep them stabilised and partially fill the sink. The water shouldn’t be too deep and should come no higher than their tummies.

Start by wetting your cat with warm water. Do it gently and pour from a cup. Lather your cat with shampoo. We’d suggest just sticking to the localised area that needs cleaning and only wash your cat all over if it’s completely necessary. Once lathered and cleaned, gently rinse them ensuring all shampoo is rinsed thoroughly.

Once your cat is fully rinsed, gently dry them with a soft pet towel. You could try drying with a hairdryer on a very low setting, but most cats won’t like the sound, so it’s best to do what you think is best for your particular cat. Bath time can be particularly stressful for cats, so don’t put them through anything that isn’t completely necessary.

Do your best to keep them calm and keep some treats to hand to reward them for their good behaviour.

What Are Common Cat Grooming Mistakes?

Even with the best intentions, it’s easy to slip into habits that make grooming harder for you and less pleasant for your cat. Here are the most common cat grooming mistakes to avoid:

  • Brushing against the direction of the fur - Always brush the way the coat naturally lies. Going against the grain can pull the fur and irritate the skin, quickly turning your cat off grooming altogether.
  • Grooming for too long - Long sessions can overwhelm your cat. Short, regular bursts are far more effective, and always end on a positive note before your cat becomes restless.
  • Using the wrong tools - Human brushes or dog brushes aren’t designed for feline coats. Choose brushes and combs made specifically for cats and matched to their coat type.
  • Cutting out matts with scissors - Cat skin is thin and delicate, and it’s all too easy to catch it when snipping at a knot. Tight matts should be teased out gently or dealt with by a vet or professional groomer.
  • Bathing too often - Frequent baths strip the natural oils from your cat’s coat and cause unnecessary stress. Only bathe when it’s genuinely needed, and always use a pet-safe feline shampoo.
  • Ignoring sensitive areas or forcing them - Skipping health checks around the ears, eyes and claws means problems can go unnoticed, but forcing a cat to have their tummy brushed when they hate it will damage their trust. Work with your cat’s comfort levels and build up slowly.

Cat Grooming Brushes & Tools

Whatever grooming regime you choose for your cat, having the correct tool to hand will be important. Make sure you have good quality cat brushes and combs that are designed specifically for felines and their specific coat type.

  1. Catit Longhair Grooming Kit - This kit contains every tool you need to take care of a longhaired cat’s coat, from teasing out knots and tangles to fluffing and smoothing the fur – ideal for cats with medium to long coats.
  2. Ancol Moulting Cat Comb - This is a brilliant grooming tool for any medium coated cat that is shedding. The variation in teeth length will help to remove loose hair from both the undercoat and the topcoat.
  3. Animology Feline Great Shampoo - If you need to bathe your cat, choose a pet safe shampoo designed specifically for felines such as this Animology shampoo. Mild and gentle, it will clean your pets’ fur without stripping it of the natural oils. Suitable for cats from 12 weeks old.

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Here are a few signs to watch for: The cat being groomed flattens their ears or pulls their head away They walk off mid-session looking relieved, not relaxed One cat always initiates grooming, never the other way around You notice thinning fur in certain spots from repeated, concentrated licking The licking looks frantic or repetitive rather than slow and settled The recipient shows tension during grooming — tail flicking, a low grumble, or a stiff body Compulsive grooming can be a response to environmental stress. Giving cats a positive outlet for restless energy really does help, and something like a wall climber or activity centre can make a surprising difference to anxious behaviour at home. A little one-sidedness is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about on its own. Most cats settle into their own grooming rhythms over time. But if you’re consistently noticing avoidance, tension, or licking that looks more compulsive than caring, it’s worth keeping a closer eye on things. A chat with your vet or a cat behaviourist can help you figure out what’s going on and how best to support both cats. How to support calm, comfortable cat relationships at home The good news is that most cats in the same household find their own rhythm over time. But there are things you can do to smooth the process along, especially if you have a newer pairing or a cat who seems a little unsettled. Start with space. Cats feel safest when they have somewhere to retreat to that is entirely their own. If your cats share every bed, bowl, and sunny windowsill, tension can quietly build even when everything looks fine on the surface. Giving each cat a dedicated resting spot makes a real difference — not just for their comfort, but for the overall mood of the household. A cosy, enclosed bed works especially well as a personal sanctuary, somewhere a cat can decompress without another wandering in uninvited. If you are looking for something that suits each cat’s individual personality, the Lords & Labradors cat bed collection is well worth a browse. Scratching posts are another simple win. Place them in a few different spots around the home and cats can mark their territory in a way that feels natural and low-conflict, which quietly helps keep the peace without anyone having to step in. When it comes to encouraging closeness, let the cats lead. Grooming and licking will happen on their terms, and that is exactly how it should be. Moving them together when they seem settled apart, or hovering over interactions, can create friction rather than ease it. Step back and trust them. Watching your cats groom each other and genuinely seem at ease together is one of the quiet joys of a multi-cat home. A little support from you goes a long way in helping them get there. Frequently Asked Questions What does it mean if cats lick each other? It usually means they feel comfortable and familiar with each other. Cats often lick one another as part of social grooming, or allogrooming, which helps with bonding, shared scent, and cleaning hard-to-reach spots like the head, ears, and neck. It can also reflect social confidence within the pair. Does the dominant cat groom the other? Sometimes, yes. When one cat regularly starts the grooming, it can show social confidence or that they tend to take the lead in the relationship, not just affection. The bigger picture matters though, as relaxed body language and calm, mutual interactions usually suggest the grooming is comfortable and positive. Is it good when a cat licks another cat? Yes, in most cases it’s a good sign. Cats licking each other is often a normal, reassuring part of social grooming that shows trust, comfort, and bonding. It’s only worth watching more closely if the licking looks frantic, one-sided, or seems to make the other cat tense or uneasy.

    By Adele Busby

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  • Why Do Cats Chirp at Birds
    21.08.26 August 21, 2026 Owning a Cat

    Why Do Cats Chirp at Birds

    That strange stuttering sound your cat makes when a bird lands outside is one of those small, delightful mysteries that comes with sharing your home with a cat. In this article, we look at why cats chirp at birds, what the main theories behind the behaviour actually mean, and what your cat’s body language is quietly telling you while it happens. We also cover when to relax and when to pay closer attention, plus some simple ways to make life a little richer for a cat who lives for the windowsill. What does it mean when a cat chirps at birds? If you’ve ever caught your cat glued to the windowsill, eyes locked on a bird outside, making a strange stuttering sound you’ve never quite heard before — you already know what chirping is. It’s one of those moments that stops you mid-cup-of-tea and makes you wonder what on earth is going on in that little head. Cat chirping is a short, rapid, high-pitched sound that sits somewhere between a trill and a stutter. It’s nothing like a meow, which cats tend to save for communicating with us, and it’s worlds away from a yowl or a hiss. You’ll often see it described as chattering too, and the two are closely related. Chattering usually involves that rapid jaw movement — almost like teeth clicking — while chirping is a touch softer and more tonal. Plenty of cats do both at the same time. It tends to happen in a very specific moment: a bird lands on a nearby branch, hops across the garden, or flutters past a favourite window. Your cat spots it, freezes, and out comes that curious little sound. It’s almost always directed outward, at something they can see but can’t reach. So why do cats chirp at birds? It’s worth digging into, because the answer says a lot about how your cat thinks and experiences the world. And if you’re already thinking about ways to keep your bird-obsessed cat happy indoors, we’ve got plenty of ideas to explore. Why do cats chirp at birds? The main theories There’s no single agreed-upon answer to why cats chirp at birds, which makes cat chattering behaviour one of the more intriguing puzzles in feline research. Several compelling theories exist, and honestly, each one tells us something a little different about how cats are wired. Scientists haven’t landed on a definitive explanation yet, so this is very much an open question — and a genuinely fascinating one. Leading theories behind the chirp: Predatory excitement and overstimulation. The moment your cat spots a bird outside, their hunting instincts kick in almost instantly. Cat chattering behaviour is thought to be a physical expression of that intense arousal — a kind of involuntary release when excitement builds faster than it has anywhere to go. Frustration at not being able to reach prey. Sometimes the cat chirping at birds meaning might be surprisingly straightforward: frustration. Your cat can see exactly what they want, but the glass is in the way. That clicking, stuttering sound could be how they process the tension between wanting something and not being able to get it. Instinctive mimicry or prey-luring behaviour. Some researchers suggest cats may imitate bird calls to draw prey closer. It’s an idea supported by observations of wild cats mimicking tamarin monkey calls in the Amazon — compelling, though still unproven in domestic cats. Anticipation mixed with hunting instinct. Why do cats chatter at birds? It may simply be excitement and readiness colliding — your cat mentally rehearsing a hunt they can’t actually go on. Quick insight: This behaviour tends to show up most in indoor cats watching birds through windows. If your cat has a favourite spot to lounge near the glass, they’re probably chirping there regularly. A dedicated cat bed positioned near a window gives them a comfortable perch to watch, chirp, and daydream to their heart’s content. It’s also worth noting that research into cat vocalisation is still evolving. One peer-reviewed study found that domestic cats have a wide vocal repertoire, with up to 21 different vocalizations described in the literature — a reminder that we’re still learning a great deal about how cats communicate. Understanding why cats make chirping noises is reassuring in itself: this behaviour is completely normal and rooted in deep instinct. Keep reading to find out what your cat’s body language is telling you when the chirping starts. What your cat’s body language can tell you Chirping rarely happens on its own. If you’ve ever wondered why do cats chirp at birds, the sound is only one piece of the puzzle. Your cat’s body usually tells you just as much, especially during those long garden-watching sessions from the windowsill. Body language signals to watch for: Tail flicking or lashing – quick flicks often mean intense focus and rising excitement Crouching low – this classic hunting posture shows your cat is fully tuned in Ears forward – a good sign they’re alert and engaged; ears flattening can mean frustration or overstimulation is creeping in Fixed stare – when your cat barely blinks, they’re tracking every flutter and hop Rapid chirping bursts – short, excited sounds often happen when the bird moves suddenly Harmless excitement Signs of overstimulation Soft, steady chirping Loud, frantic chattering Relaxed crouch Stiff, tense posture Gentle tail flicks Fast, forceful tail lashing Taken together, these clues help explain cat chirping at birds meaning a little more clearly. A focused, excited cat is usually just enjoying the thrill of the “hunt” from a safe spot indoors. If the body gets tense and the sounds get more urgent, it may be time for a gentle distraction, like a toy or a quick play session. If you’d like to get better at spotting these cues in pets generally, our guide to reading body language cues in dogs and other animals is a helpful next read. Should you worry if your cat chirps at birds? For most cat owners, chirping at birds is one of those endearing little quirks that makes life with a cat so entertaining. And reassuringly, cat chirping at birds is almost always completely normal — it simply means your cat has clocked something exciting outside and their inner hunter has woken up. Nothing to worry about there. That said, it’s worth knowing what to keep an eye on. Pay a little closer attention if you notice: A sudden change in the sound, especially if it seems more strained or distressed than usual Chirping paired with pacing, hiding, or visible anxiety Repetitive vocalisation with no obvious trigger nearby, like a bird or movement at the window Other changes alongside it, such as a shift in appetite, energy levels, or general mood The short version: occasional chirping is healthy self-expression. Most cats genuinely enjoy the stimulation of watching birds — think of it as their version of a gripping nature documentary. If your cat seems happy, curious, and otherwise completely themselves, there’s very little cause for concern. What matters most is that their day-to-day environment feels calm and enriching. A well-thought-out home setup — including a dedicated cat washroom space where they can retreat and feel settled — can make a real difference to an otherwise content, bird-obsessed cat. How to support a chirpy, bird-watching cat at home If your cat loves nothing more than pressing their nose to the glass and chattering away at every robin and pigeon that dares to land in the garden, the best thing you can do is lean into it. Bird-watching is genuinely enriching for cats, and a few simple tweaks at home can make the whole experience even better for them. Start with a good window spot. Cats want a clear, comfortable view, ideally at height, so they can properly survey their kingdom. A wall-mounted perch like the Lords and Labradors Malmo Viewing Pod gives them a dedicated vantage point to settle in for as long as they like, without monopolising the sofa arm or teetering on a wobbly windowsill. You can also bring a little of the outside in. A bird feeder positioned within sight of a favourite window turns an ordinary afternoon into something genuinely absorbing. Pair that with a cat-safe herb planter on the sill, some rustling foliage nearby, or even a nature documentary playing quietly in the background, and you have got a surprisingly rich little sensory world for them to enjoy. Interactive play is worth building in too. Wand toys with feather attachments are brilliant for letting your cat act on all that pent-up predatory energy from a long chattering session. A short burst of play afterwards can leave them feeling satisfied rather than quietly wound up. Cat chirping at birds is your cat being fully, brilliantly themselves. Your job is simply to give them the best possible seat for the show. Frequently Asked Questions Why does my cat make a chirping sound at birds? Cats usually chirp at birds because seeing prey triggers a burst of hunting excitement. It can also reflect frustration when they can see a bird but cannot reach it through the window. In most cases, it is a completely normal instinctive behaviour, often paired with focused staring, crouching, and tail flicking. Why does my cat make a chirping sound like a bird? Cats often make a bird-like chirping sound when they spot birds or other fast-moving prey outside. The sound is linked to hunting instinct, excitement, anticipation, and sometimes frustration if the prey is out of reach. It is generally a normal feline behaviour, especially during intense window watching.

    By Adele Busby

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  • Why Do Some Cats Not Like to Be Held
    17.08.26 August 17, 2026 Owning a Cat

    Why Do Some Cats Not Like to Be Held

    If you have ever scooped up your cat only to find them twisting free within seconds, you are not alone and it is not personal. Understanding why do some cats not like to be held starts with instinct, personality, and the quiet signals cats send long before they decide to make their feelings obvious. This article unpacks what is really behind that resistance and shares gentle, practical ways to build the kind of trust that makes closeness feel safe for both of you. Why some cats hate being held: what’s really going on If your cat wriggles out of your arms the second you pick them up, it can feel a bit disheartening, especially when you were only after a cosy cuddle. But if you have ever wondered why do some cats not like to be held, it usually is not about attitude or affection. Your cat is communicating discomfort. A big part of it comes down to instinct. Cats may be brilliant hunters, but they are also prey animals, so being lifted off the ground and restrained can feel unsafe. Even in a calm home with people they love, that sudden loss of control can trigger a very natural fear response. That is also why does my cat not like being picked up is such a common question among cat parents. Their body language often tells the story before they struggle. A twitching tail, ears pinned back, wide eyes, or a stiff body are all signs your cat is not relaxed. Learning to spot that cat body language when held helps you respond with more empathy and less guesswork. Understanding the reason matters because it changes how you support your cat. Instead of forcing contact, you can build trust in ways that feel safer to them, whether that is giving them choice, creating quiet hiding spots, or making their home feel secure with something like a cat washroom for extra privacy. The instinctive reasons holding can feel unsafe to a cat To understand why some cats don’t like to be held, it helps to start with what cats are actually wired to feel, rather than what we’d love them to feel. Cats haven’t been domesticated nearly as long as dogs, and underneath every purring house cat is a creature still built to stay alert, stay mobile, and stay in control of what happens to their body. Here are the key instinctive reasons being held can feel threatening to a cat: Feeling trapped. The moment you hold a cat, you take away their ability to move freely. That triggers a deep alarm, even when you mean nothing but love. Losing their escape route. Cats always want to know how they’d get away if they needed to. Being held removes that option entirely. Unfamiliar pressure on their body. Even gentle squeezing can feel overwhelming to a cat who hasn’t built trust around that kind of contact. Vulnerability from height. Being lifted puts a cat somewhere they didn’t choose to go. That feels disorienting and exposed, not reassuring. No control over what happens next. Cats are deeply independent. Unpredictability, even from someone they adore, can flip them straight into defensive mode. Key insight: Cats are both predator and prey. Being restrained activates the same alarm response as being caught by a threat, regardless of how safe the situation really is. That prey-animal instinct never fully switches off, which is why so many cats gravitate toward high spots where they can keep watch entirely on their own terms. Giving them access to vertical space, like wall-mounted cat climbers, genuinely supports their need for control and safe retreat — the very things being held can take away. Every cat is different: personality, early experiences, and trust No two cats are the same, and that is often the real answer to why do some cats not like to be held. If your cat pulls away when you scoop them up, it does not automatically mean they are unfriendly. More often, it comes down to personality, past experiences, and how safe they feel with touch. A few things usually shape that preference: Personality. Some cats love being close and will happily curl up on your lap. Others prefer to sit beside you, follow you from room to room, or ask for affection in short bursts. Early socialisation. Kittens who were handled gently and regularly in their first weeks are often more relaxed with human contact later on. Past handling experiences. If a cat has been grabbed, restrained, or picked up awkwardly, they may decide being held is something to avoid. Age and life stage. Comfort with handling can change over time. Some cats become softer and clingier, while others grow more particular about how and when they want contact. Breed tendencies. Some breeds are known for being especially people-focused, while others tend to like affection on their own terms. Family setting and trust. One study found that cats showed affectionate, aggressive, fearful, and playful responses in family settings and these responses varied across cats, especially in homes with children. Trust grows slowly, and usually in small everyday moments. A calm routine, gentle handling, and a cosy place to settle, like a soft cat blanket, can help your cat feel secure. Some cats do become cuddlier with time, but only when their boundaries are respected. Signs your cat is uncomfortable being held Cats communicate discomfort long before they feel the need to scratch or bite. Learning to read what their body is already telling you is one of the most useful things you can do as a cat parent, and it goes a long way toward understanding why some cats don’t like to be held. Body stiffening: Your cat goes rigid in your arms rather than relaxing into you. It’s the opposite of a melt. Tail lashing or thumping: A fast, sweeping tail is not excitement. It signals agitation, and it tends to escalate quickly. Flattened ears: Ears pinned back or turned sideways mean your cat feels threatened or overwhelmed. Dilated pupils: Wide, round pupils in normal lighting point to stress or fear, not curiosity. Vocalising: Growling, hissing, or persistent meowing while being held is a verbal protest. A clear one. Squirming and twisting: Active attempts to wriggle free are not playfulness. Your cat wants down. Biting or scratching: This is a last resort, and it almost always means earlier signals were missed. If you notice any of these signs, put your cat down calmly and straight away. These are not phases to push through. They are clear requests to stop. Respecting those signals consistently is what builds trust over time. Giving your cat somewhere that genuinely feels safe and theirs, like a high-sided cat bed they can retreat to, means bonding happens on their terms. That’s always when it works best. How to build trust without forcing cuddles The goal here isn’t to get your cat to tolerate being held. It’s to help them feel genuinely safe around you — and once that shifts, everything else tends to follow. Start by letting your cat lead. When they come to you, offer a gentle stroke and stop before they pull away. That small moment of choice builds more trust than ten forced cuddles ever could. Repeated often enough, your cat starts to understand that closeness doesn’t mean losing control. When you do need to pick them up, keep it brief and make it worthwhile. Support their full body weight, hold them close to your chest, and make sure all four paws feel stable. A cat who feels like they might fall is a cat who’s going to wriggle free immediately. Even a few calm, well-supported seconds counts as progress. It also helps to pair handling with something good. Lift them gently, set them back down, then offer a small treat or a quick play session they love. Do that consistently and being picked up starts to feel less like a threat and more like the start of something worth staying for. Beyond the handling itself, think about the environment. A well-placed cat perch, a cosy hiding spot or two, and enrichment they actually engage with all lower background stress — and a less stressed cat is a more open one. Our cat collection has plenty to help you build a space they feel at home in. Small, consistent moments matter far more than grand breakthroughs. Trust builds slowly, but when it does, it sticks. Frequently Asked Questions How do I get my cat to like to be held? You can’t force a cat to like being held, but you can help them feel safer with it. Let them lead contact, keep lifts brief and well supported, and pair being picked up with something positive like a treat or play so handling feels predictable, not threatening. Why does my cat suddenly not want to be held? A cat can suddenly stop wanting to be held because handling starts to feel unsafe, overwhelming, or too restrictive for them. Changes in trust, stress, life stage, or past handling experiences can all affect this, and their body language usually shows discomfort before they struggle.

    By Adele Busby

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